Fantasies are a huge part of everyone’s sex life and so many swingers get into the lifestyle to fulfill the fantasies they’ve developed through open conversation and pillow talk with their partner.
In this episode we discuss how our fantasies developed and how we began to realize that in the lifestyle, because exciting fantasies are so frequently fulfilled, many swingers actually begin to develop a whole list of experiences they would like to have. Like many swingers we have really developed two lists.
Usually we create our episodes by identifying a topic, writing the notes and then selecting a story from our past that illustrates the topic, but this time we have a story that is so amazing that we designed the topic around it. Listen as we remember how we got the chance to fulfill the fantasies of a very special friend as we checked some new things off our own list too. Of all of our experiences, this is one of our very favorite memories.
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As we say on just about all of our shows, one of the main reasons we started this podcast was to help curious, nervous newbies navigate their way into the wild, sexy, but daunting world of swinging, because we remember what it was like to be new, intimidated and very scared.
In this episode, we look back at our original fears and apprehensions about the lifestyle and we explore the question; if we could go back and talk to the frightened, timid, vanilla couple that we were when we stumbled into Desire years ago, what advice would we give ourselves? With that prompt, we offer the top 5 things that we, and all newbies, should, but probably don’t know about swingers and the lifestyle.
Our diary story is about an encounter with a newbie couple that actually pursued us in order to take their first steps into their swinging adventure and the way, as ambassadors for the lifestyle, we both let them down and gave them an amazing experience to remember.
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After a long sabbatical Penn and Paige are back!
In all honesty, when we said goodbye and signed off almost a year ago, we believed that was the permanent conclusion of our show but over the past few months a few unexpected things happened to us.
First was the flood of kind sentiments of support sent to us by email and on social media sites, most of them thanking us for the difference we had made in peoples’ lives and marriages. We had no idea how many people we had touched and we were very moved.
Then came a year of amazing experiences. Our swinging career has been very active even with the microphones off. So often, after an awesome evening of sexy fun, we would collapse into the car for the long ride home and say to ourselves, “Wow! What a night! If only we could tell somebody about that!”, and the stories started to bubble up inside us again.
Finally, we began to realize how much we missed telling our stories. We see now that this shared hobby enriched our lives in a similar way that the swinging lifestyle has and, after many long nights of soul searching, we agreed that we needed to dig the microphones out of the box in the basement and resume our show.
In this episode we re-introduce our podcast and explain our motivations for this program.
Our diary entry is a recent memory of an encounter with sexy listeners who made us proud of our influence on their lives and then turned the tables on us as the teachers became the students during a steamy evening of sexy, slippery fun.
The term “lifestyle” is so loosely used that lots of alternative interest groups claim to be in “The Lifestyle” but what does that mean? If swinging is a lifestyle, does it change the way you live? Does it change your attitudes about life and as a result can’t it become all-consuming and addictive?
In this episode we talk about the frequency of our swinging experiences and give some tips for avoiding burn out. We also reflect on how the swinging lifestyle has changed us for the better.
Our diary story is about a recent, unexpected, spur of the moment offer for play from a nameless couple we barely knew. Before we became comfortable with this lifestyle, we would never have been confident enough to accept their invitation, but we are so glad we did.
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Single men are a very complicated topic among swingers. Some couples are creeped out by them and avoid any contact and others specifically seek them out. Just like any other group of people, there are awesome single men and there are creeps in the lifestyle.
Although there are tons of options available to couples for play with a single man, in our experience, single guys who are charming, sexy, respectful, honest, clean, and charismatic are the real “unicorns”. In this episode we discuss the advantages and disadvantages of play with single men and give some suggestions and tips for how we select our single male playmates to avoid the weirdos and flakes.
Our sexy diary story is a memory of an encounter with a carefully selected single man and the MFM threesome that we enjoyed together. While there were awkward and uncomfortable moments, the experience was a unique and sexy one for us.
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Twenty episodes is a bit of a milestone for us. When we first began recording, we had no grand ambitions for our show, but we had information to pass on and so many fun memories that we wanted to share.
Swinging has been an awesome adventure for us and we are proud to advocate for its joys and benefits but just like any activity, even our favorite hobby has annoyances and frustrations. We pride ourselves on offering listeners candid, honest, practical tips and advice about swinging so in the interest of balance and transparency, and in honor of our 20th show; in this episode we discuss the top 20 things we DON’T like about the swinging lifestyle. Although in our swinging experience the good far outweighs the bad, in this show we indulge in a cathartic bitch session about our personal pet peves.
Our diary story is about our trip to Hedonism II in Jamaica and the fantastic rewards of looking past the inconveniences and annoyances that are inevitadbally part of any swinging experience.
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If we could subtitle this episode in our usual style of inquiry, the question of this show would be: “How could it be that sharing your spouse with someone could possibly enhance your marriage?” Its hard to put into words a clear explanation to that question so we hope this show’s account illustrates the answer.
In the swinging lifestyle its rare for us to find a connection with another couple in which all four of us are attracted intellectually, physically and emotionally to each other but recently it happened to us.
In this episode Mr. and Mrs. Jones of the We Gotta Thing Podcast join us for the second half of our bonus joint-podcasting event. The conversation begins on episode 13 of the We Gotta Thing Podcast. Be sure to listen to it first so you can pick up the conversation and sexy stories here in Part 2.
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We are back from Naughty in N’awlins 2015 and we have got some sexy stories to tell. This event created the first and largest collection of swinging lifestyle podcasters ever assembled in one place and it was awesome fun.
In this episode we discuss hotel takeovers and give some specific examples of how the NiN convention was an epic one. One of the unique experiences that we had at the event was the connection made with fantastic new friends, Mr. and Mrs Jones from the We Gotta Thing Podcast. As charming and sexy as we imagined them to be, they were in person.
While our diary story is about an sexy sixsome experience that occurred in the playrooms of NiN, we are honored to have a bonus diary story told by our new friends and the announcement of more collaboration soon to follow.
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Lets be totally honest, if you are not in a rock solid committed relationship, then swinging is probably not right for you. Most swingers are so secure in their own relationships that they have no interest in more than just social friendships with anybody but their partner. In the swinging lifestyle, nobody is looking to take anybody else’s spouse.
We all love many people in our lives and that love doesn’t diminish our commitment to our life partner. We love our family, our job and even our possessions, so loving our friends is natural and normal. In this episode we talk about friends with benefits, exclusive swinging relationships and swayers.
Our diary story is about an intimate and relaxing afternoon spent with a couple that have become very dear to us and how familiarity with great friends allows for exploration into play situations that we never knew we would even want to try.
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Infamously, house parties are the most intense situation for play. They can be very intimidating but good house parties are often some of the most exciting experiences in the swinging lifestyle.
In this episode we talk about tips and suggestions that will help insure that you select the right party for you and give advice on how to get comfortable with the potentially high-pressure situations that are part of the house party scene.
In our sexy diary story we remember a great house party where we met a sexy couple and the challenges that we faced in playing with them in a typical house party situation where privacy isn’t always available.
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Back when we started swinging and everything was new and wild, we were easily intimidated, awed and even freaked out by some of the things we were exposed to and by some of the variety of sexual preferences that people seemed to enjoy. A new friend of ours once gave us some good advice to help encourage us to explore our interests. He told us… “Remember, its only kinky the first time.”
As an alternative sexual lifestyle, most people would probably consider swinging to be kinky, and in a way it is. After all, having consensual sex with people other than your spouse is kinky to most people, but what we have found its that the swinging world is only one part of a spectrum of amazing kinky worlds that exist. There are many parallel universes of kink that weave in and out of the swinging lifestyle. If you spend any time with swingers, you are bound to learn a little about some of them and maybe even be enticed to explore and experiment. We have been.
Our Diary story is about a few of our brushes with some colorful people in the kink scene and how they taught us that sometimes sex is about pushing your boundaries in order to enhance your pleasure.
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Like so many swingers, we started in this lifestyle by taking a chance and traveling to a distant, exotic location where we could just watch, learn and then eventually participate in the sexy fun. The experience was so amazing that we have returned many times and have had the pleasure of visiting most of the other lifestyle friendly resorts and events too. We travel often for sexy fun.
In this episode we answer the most frequently asked question from our email and discuss our recommendation for the best destination for your first swinging vacation.
Our journal entry this time is about the experience we had a couple of months ago as we hosted an impromptu birthday orgy in our Passion Suite at Desire. It was a sexy evening and the clean-up afterwards confirmed it!
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Inspired by questions from listeners about how we seemingly find so many awesome sexy people in our travels who become entries into our Swinger Diaries, on this episode we expose some of the truths about a few of our dating failures.
After all, while we do go on dates with other couples, of all the ways to meet potential play partners, we have found that a two-on-two date is the least probable to end in a connection.
Unfortunately, that high pressure situation is fraught with tension, overly eager optimism, nervous anticipation, and all too often, disappointment.
We actually have had a few successful dates and in our sexy journal entry, we remember one of our most favorite play experiences which really did begin with a rare situation; a fun, flirty, successful, couples date.
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We all know that practice makes perfect and since swingers have lots of sex, it would be a reasonable assumption that they are amazing lovers. While this point is true for some swingers, just like any other skill, some are better than others.
In this episode we discuss the skills and attitudes that make for a good lover. We also talk about the trickiness of having sex with new partners and the challenges and awkward situations which nervous excitement and distraction sometimes creates in the swinging lifestyle.
In our sexy diary journal entry, we remember answering a “Hot Date” listing and meeting an incredibly hot and experienced couple with whom we had such great bedroom communication, that we were able to venture into some wild new territory for us.
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If you are curious about the swinging lifestyle and you do any research, the most common advice found in articles, blogs or podcasts is, “Before you do anything, make sure to discuss your rules.” So, what exactly are these rules? Is there a checklist somewhere? How do you go about discussing your rules if you don’t know where to start?
Everybody has rules. The term “rules” is just a synonym for boundaries, limits or even preferences. In an effort to begin to explore the endless numbers of potential rules a couple could adopt, in this episode we talk about what we see as the 15 most common rules that should be discussed among newbies. Then in the spirit of our format, we give a description of our own personal position on each. While in no way an exhaustive list, it should give a good starting point for conversations with your partner and in so doing, help reduce the potential drama that can arise from getting into a situation for which you were not prepared.
In our diary story, we remember a time in which we were swept up in the hot steamy excitement of a group play situation without talking clearly with our playmates
about our rules. While it was sexy fun, it also resulted in a few unnecessary awkward moments.
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Flattered by messages and questions that we have received from our listeners, in this episode we answer one of the most frequently asked email inquiries. Many people wanted to know about the countless conversations and baby steps that moved us from being a faithful, conservative, monogamous couple who had never even fantasized about inviting others into our sex life, to becoming … that dreaded “S-word”.
Like most swingers, there was no pivotal moment or monumental decision that marked our entrance into the lifestyle. It was a slow gradual process and long probing conversations had with charming new friends that slowly coaxed into this amazing new exciting world.
In our sexy diary entry, we remember one of many steps in our journey. We recall the encounters that transitioned us from soft swap to full swap; the reasoning, conversations, rationale, excitement, intimidation, apprehension, and eventually the affect on our attitudes about sharing our sex life with others.
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Paige was not happy when the idea of these topics came up. Neither religion nor STIs are sexy conversation topics, but we know they are high on the list of curiosities and concerns when it comes to swinging. Originally, we had two separate topics, “Isn’t swinging against your religion?” and “Aren’t you worried about STDs?”, but Paige protested having two separate episodes about such unsexy topics so we combined them into one show.
As classic swingers, our views on these topics are more mainstream than you might realize. So many swingers are like us, professional churchgoing people, who are active members of their community, have kids and vanilla social lives, and work out at the gym and take care of themselves in an attempt to stay physically and emotionally healthy. In this show we talk about how religion fits into our swinging life and also about our observations about the risks and rewards involving STIs and the standard practices of prevention and protection in the swinging community.
Paige chooses the story for our journal as we remember a very recent hotel takeover where we had a date to meet up with old friends and the excitment of how our foursome turned into a wild and hot six-way connection with the introduction of new friends too.
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Many people imagine that swingers are just indiscriminate sex-crazed maniacs who are only interested in random hookups and wild orgies and while sex is a big part of the swinging lifestyle, the truth is that all swingers are actually very selective about who they wish to share their bodies with.
In this episode, we talk about how swinging is like dating for couples and just like in the dating scene, there are things that turn you on and turn you off about other people. Swingers are really looking for that rare and special connection even if its only for one night and sometimes that means that they have to be prepared to decline the invitations of others when it just doesn’t feel right.
In our sexy journal entry, we remember an adventurous night at one of our favorite swinger clubs in South Florida called Trapeze and the challenge of politely declining offers of play from aggressive people in the back play area that night.
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The fantasy of inviting a third person into your bed for sexy fun is the most common introduction into the swinging lifestyle. Usually this new playmate is a bisexual single woman to whom no commitments are expected other than carnal pleasure. In the swinging lifestyle these rare, desirable, beautiful, women are affectionately called unicorns. We’ve had the pleasure of play with many unicorns over the past few years and while every experience has been fun and sexy, threesomes have a tricky dynamic that should be considered before jumping right into that fantasy.
On this show we discuss who unicorns are, what they are looking for and how to find them. We explore the prevalence and preference of bisexual women and the spectrum of bisexuality in the lifestyle. We also spend some time talking about the unicorn’s male counterpart in the lifestyle, the single male, and the challenges that single men face among swingers.
Our diary entry is about an erotic afternoon spent with a gorgeous dear girlfriend who was a unicorn for the day. We took advantage of the opportunity to explore some of her kinky fantasies and to share her sexy body between us. While we prefer play with couples, in the right circumstances, riding a unicorn can be amazing!
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Its so sad that we have to hide the fact that we are swingers, but we do. The vanilla world is not ready to see our sexy adventures for what they are, an extension of our fantastic, loving, consensual, adoring, marital sexlife. Instead, most people imagine that all swingers are sexually addicted cheaters, who are easy, kinky and perverted. With that untrue and unfair reputation, we have no choice but to do what the majority of other swingers do and hide our lifestyle from friends, family, and co-workers.
In this episode, we talk about the challenges of hiding our secret sexy life and the fear of being discovered. We also suggest ways we’ve used to protect our anonymity and the unspoken agreement among swingers to honor everyone’s privacy.
In our journal entry we remember a passionate night of intense, sexy fun with a newly met couple in which the animal attraction was too powerful to resist.
Swingers clubs are a wild combination of bar, nightclub and sex party. They are one of our favorite venues for a lifestyle evening adventure. Throughout our travels we have partied through hundreds of nights of exciting swingers club action and explored dozens of different clubs around the country.
In this episode, we give tips and advice about what makes clubs so fun, how to find them, and what to expect when you visit. From what to bring, to what you’ll find in the back rooms of an on-premises club, we describe what goes on at the home base of a real swingers party.
This time, in our sexy diary, we recount one of our early experiences in a lifestyle club and how a sexy foursome tuned into an unexpected six-some. It was a thrilling and exciting first for us.
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Getting naked in front of other people can be a terrifying idea. Everybody has body issues. Just the idea of letting others see us in our bathing suits is very intimidating. Getting naked around others is like the insecurity of slipping off your shirt on the very first day of summer at the beach… times a hundred. At its core, swinging is about sex and when you have sex, you’re going to be naked. That fact alone is a roadblock that sadly takes this amazing adventure off the table for some people.
In this episode, we talk about our first experiences being naked in front of others and give some suggestions to help people deal with the anxiety and self-doubt that comes with exposing yourself so completely. We also discuss the powerful benefits of getting naked and offer some tips that have given us a little more confidence during playtime.
In our journal entry we recount a great afternoon with naked friends in the hot tub at one of our favorite clothing-optional resorts and the hot experience we had with a couple whose amazing attitude made them the sexiest people in the place.
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This episode discusses the most problematic issue in the swinging lifestyle for new and experienced swingers alike… Jealousy. We discuss the most common progression of experiences among swingers and the importance of taking each step cautiously and slowly using “baby steps” to help control potential jealousy.
We don’t have all the answers, but using our years of swinging experience, we also talk about other techniques and hints that we have found to be especially helpful in limiting and dealing with jealousy.
Our diary entry on this episode is about our encounter and steamy playtime with a newbie couple who were very excited to dive right into the full experience of swinging.
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In this episode, we discuss the next of the most common questions that we imagine people would ask if they found out that we are swingers and talk about meeting couples at online dating sites, parties, clubs and lifestyle resorts.
Our diary entry this time is about how we met a particularly sexy couple and the fun play session that we all enjoyed on a rooftop bed at Desire.
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In our first episode we, Penn and Paige, explain our motivation for this podcast and answer the first of our questions.
In this show, we explain how the Lifestyle has enriched our lives and enhanced our marriage.
As in all of our episodes, we make a story entry in to our diary. This one is about an unexpected anonymous experience in the Swinger’s Cruise playroom.
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